There was a time where people used to fight the label of “introvert.” In some circles, this may still be true. I know it was for me. The first time I took the MBTI and the test revealed an I, I recall asking my instructor about why that may have happened. I had taken the test before and presented as an E. I had tight circles of friends. I wasn’t afraid of public speaking. How could I possibly be an introvert?!

But the more I learned about the nuance of temperament, and what introversion and extroversion really looked like, the more I started to understand how my results came to be. If you’re not sure which you are, or aren’t fully convinced that your innie “diagnosis” is accurate, here are three things to consider.

Sign #1: You’re territorial.

This was the first question that my instructor asked me when she tried to investigate my confusion over my type. Are you particular about your possessions and how others handle them? Even if you share well, are you very attentive about how and when things are returned? When you return to common spaces (like restrooms in your office or a restaurant you frequent often), do you have your “preferred” space to be? If you do, this may be a sign that you’re more introverted than you may know for sure. Introverts crave routine, because it makes a world that can be unpredictable, easier to navigate. Being able to control your own space, your belongings, and how you move in a space, is one small way to moderate the energy that a day can take from you.

Sign #2: You’re a listmaker.

Someone once shared a wonderful tidbit that beautifully illustrated the difference between the introverted thinking process, and the extroverted one: when extroverts speak, it’s the beginning of a thought; when introverts speak, it’s the end of one. Solving problems and making decisions happens on the inside for introverts, rather than out loud. As such, you may find that if you need to write things down to decide how you feel about them (lists, pro-con grids, etc.), you may be more introverted than you might think.

Sign #3: When you talk, people listen.

This could be a misleading one, but stay with me. Those who speak up in meetings often, those who find it easy to operate in that space and are well-suited for it, don’t always get listened to because they have opinions on things so often. Comparatively, those who are more reserved in their remarks, may be heard with more gravity because they only speak up when it’s essential.

Which archetype fits you best? When you speak up in a meeting, do people pause and even remark, “That’s a great point!”? That may mean that your natural inclination is to take in information before speaking on it- an introverted way to conduct oneself.

Cast away the assumptions of introversion as shy, antisocial, stuck-up, or awkward. If you do find that you’re more introverted than you think, please take heart that this temperament is far more nuanced than most understand. Resist the urge to keep this newfound discovery secret; you’ll find more likeminded folks than you could ever imagine.

Written by Amma Marfo.